100 Confidence Hacks You’ve Probably Never Tried (or Maybe You Have)
Not a pep talk. Just real, human ways to feel like yourself again.
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“The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place… and it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.”
I didn’t say that. Rocky Balboa did.
But I believe it. And I’ve lived parts of it. Maybe you have too.
Here’s what I am going to say:
When confidence disappears, it doesn’t always do so with a bang.
Sometimes it just fades. Slowly. Quietly. Until one day, you’re not sure if you’re tired… or if you’ve stopped trusting yourself altogether.
You still show up. You still get things done. But something’s off.
You second-guess simple decisions.
You write and rewrite that one email.
You stop raising your hand — not because you don’t have a point, but because you’ve started believing your voice doesn’t carry much weight anymore.
I don’t have a motivational speech. I don’t think you need one.
What you need is something practical. Something real.
Not a performance, not a mantra, and not another five-step life hack that requires waking up at 4:30 AM and drinking celery foam.
So here’s what I’m offering instead:
100 honest, grounded, quietly powerful things you can try
to slowly rebuild your confidence — without pretending, performing, or pushing past your limits.
You don’t need to do all of them.
You don’t even need to do 10.
Just pick one.
And let it remind you:
you’re not lost — you’re just rebuilding.
Let’s begin.
THINGS THAT TAKE FIVE MINUTES OR LESS
(because some days, capacity is low — and that’s not a moral failure)
Write down one thing you handled well this week.
Change your desktop wallpaper to something calm or quietly motivating.
Unfollow accounts that make you feel like you’re perpetually behind.
Reread a compliment or kind message you saved.
Sit still for 60 seconds without trying to fix or improve anything.
Choose one task that matters, and do it without multitasking.
Take a walk around the block — not to brainstorm, just to be.
Block 30 minutes on your calendar where no one can book you. Call it something honest, like ‘Do not disturb (or I will combust).’
Revisit your resume or LinkedIn profile. Notice how far you've come.
Write a thank-you message to someone who helped you grow.
THINGS THAT INVOLVE LOOKING BACK
(because your confidence didn’t vanish — it just got buried under noise)
Reflect on a time you were proud of how you showed up.
Ask a former colleague what they think you do well.
Re-read a performance review where someone saw your potential.
Make a list of skills you’ve developed in the last two years.
Think about a project you were terrified to take on — and did anyway.
Go through old notebooks and find early signs of your growth.
Reconnect with the version of you who applied for the job you were so proud of.
Revisit a moment where you supported someone else — and it mattered.
Make a list titled “Things I used to think I couldn’t do.”
Remind yourself how long it took to build your current knowledge.
THINGS THAT REINFORCE YOUR VOICE
(because speaking up is a muscle, not a personality trait)
Say your idea in a meeting, even if it’s not perfect.
Start a sentence with “I believe…” and finish it with honesty.
Ask a thoughtful question — even if it makes you nervous.
Write a LinkedIn post from your real voice, not your professional mask.
Speak one sentence louder than you’re comfortable with.
Pause before responding. Use that moment to own your tone.
Tell someone about a goal you're working toward. Out loud.
Write something you're proud of and share it with one person.
Practice saying “I don’t agree — here’s why,” calmly and clearly.
Resist the urge to self-deprecate when someone compliments you.
THINGS THAT REQUIRE A SMALL LEAP
(not drastic change — just one foot forward)
Apply for a role or opportunity that stretches your current identity.
Ask someone to mentor you — even informally.
Say no to something that drains you. No explanation.
Initiate the tough but necessary conversation you know you’ve been avoiding.
Offer your perspective when everyone else is staying quiet.
Volunteer to lead something — even if it scares you.
Launch a small side project that reflects your values.
Sign up for a course you've been hesitating on.
Try something new without expecting to be good at it.
Propose an idea that’s been on your mind for weeks.
THINGS THAT INVOLVE OTHER PEOPLE
(because confidence grows in the context of belonging)
Ask a peer for feedback you can actually use.
Tell someone you admire their work — and why.
Share a win with a trusted friend. Let them celebrate with you.
Talk openly about a time you messed up — and what you learned.
Recommend someone else for an opportunity. Watch how it lifts you too.
Ask, “What do you think I’m uniquely good at?” Then don’t argue.
Create a group where people can learn out loud, not just perform.
Take time to mentor someone who’s just starting out.
Invite a colleague to co-create something meaningful.
Say “I need help with this” — clearly, without shame.
THINGS THAT INVOLVE CLARITY
(because confidence comes from knowing who you are — not who you’re pretending to be)
Define what success looks like for you this quarter.
Write a short work bio that actually feels true.
Identify three things that energize you — and three that deplete you.
Decide what kind of person you want to be at work — not just what title you want.
Name the kind of projects you no longer want to say yes to.
Revisit your personal values. Match them to your calendar.
Ask yourself: “What’s working for me right now?” Write it down.
Choose a word to guide your work this month. (e.g. focus, clarity, ease)
Clarify what you won’t measure your worth by anymore.
List 5 things you bring to a team that aren’t in your job description.
THINGS THAT TAKE COURAGE
(but often bring the most relief)
Ask for the raise or title you’ve earned.
Share a creative idea, even if it’s unconventional.
Own a mistake without spiraling into self-blame.
Speak with conviction, even when uncertain.
Be honest about what you no longer want to do.
Leave a role or environment that’s slowly eroding you.
Challenge the norm when it no longer serves the team.
Say “this matters to me” in a room where others are indifferent.
Share your work before it’s fully polished.
Lead something before you feel 100% ready.
THINGS THAT MAKE YOU MOVE AGAIN
(because action builds trust in yourself)
Choose one thing you’ve been avoiding — and begin.
Complete a small task and cross it off visibly.
Build a daily routine with room to succeed and to breathe.
Use a timer to work in focused 25-minute bursts.
Go for a walk to clear your head — then come back and decide.
Schedule thinking time, not just doing time.
Block your calendar for deep work, not just meetings.
Tidy up your desk. It’s not about looking neat. It’s about thinking clearly.
Spend one hour learning instead of consuming.
Break one big goal into the next small step.
THINGS THAT REFRAME THE STORY
(because confidence often lives in how you interpret your experiences)
Rewrite a recent failure as a case study in growth.
Start a document called “Things I’ve Figured Out.”
Shift from “I’m behind” to “I’m building at my pace.”
Reframe rejection as redirection. (Not a platitude. A pattern.)
Challenge the assumption that confidence = extroversion.
Notice when you’re catastrophizing. Replace it with a question.
Write yourself a recommendation letter — as if you were your mentor.
Document your wins weekly — not just in reviews.
Change “I should have” to “Next time, I’ll…”
Replace perfectionism with clarity on what’s “good enough.”
THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU FEEL STUCK
(because sometimes rebuilding means resting — not pushing harder)
Take a full day off without guilt.
Talk to someone outside your field for perspective.
Pause and re-evaluate your workload.
Create a “not now” list for later — and stop carrying it in your head.
Stop trying to be great at everything at once.
Allow yourself to plateau — it doesn’t mean you’ve failed.
Stop solving everything. Just name what’s hard.
Take a break from “personal development.”
Forgive the version of you who didn’t know better.
Remind yourself that confidence isn’t a personality trait. It’s a relationship you rebuild — with yourself.
Confidence isn’t a fixed state. It’s not reserved for the fearless.
It’s a skill. A habit. A relationship.
And it’s one you can rebuild — no matter how long it’s been, or how far you feel from yourself.
Start where you are.
Choose one thing from this list.
And take the first quiet, confident step forward.
You're not behind. You're rebuilding.
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